Play: n. Basically an easier way of saying ‘let’s have sex’ ‘do you want to play?’ People will tag that on the end of different branches of kink, like puppy play. I’d prefer that you not talk about scat play at lunch because it squicks me out. If you start take a shit on me, I'll safe-word immediately and end the scene. Į.g I'd really rather not go there unless you want to in a huge way and you go into it slowly.

Protocol: n. Although there are plenty of stereotypical manners that people employ, it's usually a person-to-person agreed-upon thing. People draw up contracts, mostly for 24/7, not usually initial encounters It can be kind of a seductive, fun, fantasy-filled conversation. Before the scene ever starts (a lot of people like to do it a couple days before) people talk as human beings, outside of roles: limits, preferences, that kind of stuff. Can I tell you who you’re gonna vote for for president? Could be literally age play, someone pretending to be young.Ģ4/7: Į.g. a little bit more sweet and nurturing, like a tough-love coach at times.”īrat: n. The agreement was that he would pay a very low rent and in exchange he would keep the house clean, and also just be my sexual plaything whenever I wanted.ĭaddy Dom or Sensual Dom: n. A person who can be dominant and can be submissive, but does not identify as always a dom or always a sub A dom or sub has a higher-status or lower-status psychological role that they are playing. There’s more psychological weight on the idea of being a dom or a sub, a top or a bottom is someone who is basically just doing or being done to. A person who is dominant/a person who is submissive. In kink play, a person who is doing something to a bottom.ĭom/sub: n. In scat, the person being pooped on is the bottom. In any activity, someone who is being done to rather than the doer.Į.g. Sexual activity that is generally accepted as normal.īottom: n. Pain can be perceived as pleasurable if you’re going about it differently. I met a guy in Amsterdam who said that everything is kink. There is not a finite number of ways to do it.

Thinking of sex as a limitless adventure. Any fetish that has an erotic charge to it would be called kinky. Kevin Allison.īDSM: Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism All other text is directly quoted from Mr. Brackets denote paraphrasing by the author.

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